Love Language

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Love language?

Love language. Bahasa cinta.

Menurut satu teori (aku lupa teori siapa), human has five languages of love.

1 Notes Of Affirmation

2 Quality Time

3 Gifts

4 Acts Of Service

5 Physical Touch

NOTES OF AFFIRMATION

Merujuk kepada apa-apa sahaja kata-kata sama ada ditulis, diluahkan secara lisan, mesej, emel, ape2 je la.

Kata-kata yang menunjukkan gratitude, love or compliment.

Contoh :

Terima kasih.

Awak ni comellah. I like!

Awak ni perempuan pertama yang mampu buat saya tersenyum. (Cewah!)

Bro, lu memang terbaik!

Note : Love language does not only applies to couple. It is also applied in friendship, family, or any human relations.

QUALITY TIME

Merujuk kepada masa yang diluangkan bersama yang mana kedua-dua pihak memberikan sepenuh perhatian antara satu sama lain.

Contoh : 

Gi dating. Dah tak nampak orang lain. Nampak die je.

BerYM atau berbalas mesej tak ingat dunia (dengan syarata tak buat benda lain. Tak bermesej sambil memasak ke, sambil tengok tv ke, itu tak dikira QT)

Men bola. Ya, QT tak semestinya berdua.

Lepak-lepak, borak-borak.

GIFTS

Hadiah. Apa je hadiah dikira. Tak kisah la ikhlas ke tak. Tak kisah mahal ke murah. Hand-made card pun dikira jugak.

ACTS OF SERVICE

Merujuk kepada apa-apa sahaja perbuatan yang kita buat untuk orang lain.

Contoh :

Tolong bagi seat kat KTM.

Tolong angkatkan beg.

Tolong hantarkan surat cinta.

Tolong hantar gi tempat kerja.

Apa-apa jenis tolonglah senang cerita.

PHYSICAL TOUCH

Jap ye. Jangan ke situ lagi. Sentuhan fizikal ni tak semestinya intimate touch.

Any type of touch.

Contoh :

A pat at the back of a friend who's sad.

Holding hands, in couple, in best friends.

A hug.

The tricky part is, everyone has their own PRIMARY love language that differs from each other.

If you speak their love language, they will easily be comfortable around you and it leads to love.

But, if you speak the wrong love language, different from the primary, that person may got the wrong idea.

Contoh 1 :

Emma's primary love language is words of affirmation.

But then Patrick keeps helping her out, doing things for Emma.

He is not speaking her primary love language.

So, Emma will get the wrong idea.

She might think Patrick wants something from her in return.

"Apsal mamat ni lain macam je ni?"

Somehow, Patrick brought a bit of fear for Emma.

Contoh 2 :

Maria's primary love language is quality time.

Brad likes Maria but he is a busy man. So he kept sending gifts to Maria.

Same situation with Emma, Maria will get a wrong idea.

What happen if we speak that person's primary love language?

IF we speak the person's primary love language,

the person will be attracted to us, and all the other 4 love languages will be like the icing on the cake.

Contoh :

Steven's primary is words of affirmation.

Angelica keeps saying how much she loves him and compliments him.

On the same time, she spends a lot of time together.

They will bond, and of course, Steven needs to speak her primary as well.

Usually, at the early part or the beginning of a relationship, both sides are trying their best to win each others heart.

Without knowing the primary love language of the partner, some couple fails to give the "in love" feeling to their partner.

The partner feels like losing the love, losing the attention they had before, and it leads to separation.

Sekian.

These are what theory tells me.

This is my love language, so how about you?

You can do the quiz here.

lots of love,

~unlimited love~